Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Where is the Love?

I grew up having a strong faith in humanity. I believe in the inherent good side of people, until they prove me otherwise. My family had been through a lot when I was young, yet I continued to stick with my belief for several years.

Lately however, some people are starting to make me question my wholehearted faith in mankind. I don't know if it was just me growing old, losing my naivety and facing reality, but it seems as though I'm meeting a number of people who are showing their not-so-angelic sides.

Here are examples of people that get to me...

Gossipers. I've come to realize that people love to gossip. It doesn't matter what their nationalities or genders are (believe me, men love to gossip as much as, if not more than, women), people love talking about other people. I would say in some instances, it's okay... such as when you're discussing a concern about a friend or a family member (though I won't really call that gossip!). But if you're doing it out of spite or envy, please stop. Nothing is more hurtful than gossips that were spread just to destroy a reputation. And a word of advice to gossipers who don't really mean harm but just do it for lack of better things to do: before you start speading the "news" aka. gossips, please make sure you get your stories straight. You might think it's harmless but gossips that were based on wrong assumptions can hurt other people. Better yet, just get a life and mind your own darn business!

Liars/Hypocrites. I used to know an old lady who goes to church every Sunday and prays with tears in her eyes. Then, she goes out to the real world, abuse her maid and do business illegaly. Okay lady, do you honestly believe you'll be welcomed in heaven?

Then, there was a Catholic priest in my old town who preaches so beautifully. Outside of church however, he gambles, drinks and flirts with a lot of women. What the..??!!!

Cheaters. This is one of the worst offenses in my relationship book. To me, it's unforgivable and completely undeserving of a second chance. I had the misfortune to fall in love with one once, and it left a bitter taste in my mouth that took several years to get rid of. So to cheaters out there, why can't you just have the decency to break up with whoever you're with before dilly-dallying with someone else? The pain of betrayal is a hundred times worse than the pain of knowing the truth.

Know It All's. I've got news for you, Mr./Ms 'Perfect': there's no such thing as a perfect person and you can't possibly know everything in this world! Please be respectful of other people's opinions because it's not just yours that matters. People are all equal and you're no better than anybody. Treat others as equals. However smart you think you are, you can't be right all the time. In truth, the more open-minded you are, the smarter you get. Just saying!

Sorry, if I'm being bitchy today. I know I'm not perfect either and I'm trying not to be judgemental, but I do need to vent my frustrations with some people.


jane in the waiting line said...

I totally feel you. I am so sick of all 4 of those things too, especially when they get turned around. I had a group a friends that were all about gossip and eventually I just couldn't take it anymore so I stopped hanging out with them, and then they made it about me. Ugh!

Alice said...

Rants are good sometimes...and your points are right... I have gotten a lot better about the gossip stuff I hate it too!

Chele said...

I get what you mean, I am so sick of these people as well but then again I think i unwillingly fall into them every now and again

Laura said...

It's always nice to get the rant out of your system and this is the perfect place to do it!

Bella@That damn expat said...

Rant away, my friend! That's what blogs are for.

Those are all fine points and I try to follow them. I fail with the last one.
I am pretty intolerant to other people's political views. I know I shouldn't be but you can't teach an old dog new tricks.

Sassy Britches said...

"The more open minded you are, the smarter you get." Excellent synopsis! I think Know-It-Alls are just too afraid to lose face. I'm a big proponent of admitting my ignorance; you learn something new, and people respect that you can admit you just don't know something!

Anonymous said...

You can ask some of my best friends, I've been saying most of that for years.
I feel like I grew up thinking that everything was going to be "Little House on the Prairie" or "7th Heaven" or some other crap. lol. I'm starting to loose my faith in mankind as well.
I guess we all just have to realize there are people that aren't under these descriptions, and keep on working at finding those people as opposed to the others.

Bambola said...

Gah - all those types are everywhere & blogs are for venting it's fantastic release.

I've tagged you in my latest blog.

Bambola x

Lisa said...

Well, the blog is a good place to vent... keeps you from committing horrid crimes on unsuspecting strangers in the crowd. ;)

We'll listen, cheer you up, and you can go about life knowing you won't need bail money.

I hope your day finds you running into all nice people...

Anonymous said...

oh i m equally bitchy.. just that i have stopped complaining cuz people as usual get on my nerves, tellin me to calm down, do deep meditation and get over it..
whereas i cant.
i m with you on this chloie...
go get it out of your system!
i am with you on this!!

Carina the Blogarina said...

I couln't agree more with you! Epecially today, when found someone had been lying! Don't poeple relize that everything will come to light one day?