Thursday, February 12, 2009

Let's Talk About Love

In light of it being so close to Valentine's Day, I decided to join the bandwagon and talk about love. I actually had written a different (and a little sad) post but decided not to publish it right now, and instead re-publish the one I wrote a while back (with some minor changes), which many of you probably haven't seen yet.

I can’t help but smile whenever I see an old couple walking hand in hand.

Call me a hopeless romantic, but in this uncertain world where unstable relationships abound and break-ups are everyday occurrences, seeing an old, loving couple holding hands gives me hope. Hope that not all relationships are as fragile as they seem to be nowadays. Hope that some people can love each other forever and relationships can last a lifetime. Hope that even though relationships take hard work, love conquers all. And hope that I would be one of those few who have that one-of-a-kind LOVE that will stand the test of time.

I fell in love for the first time when I was 24 (I was a late bloomer. I dated before that, I just never fell in love). So in love (or so I thought, but it might just the novelty of first love) that when my relationship ended in betrayal of trust, I was devastated. I felt so hurt and betrayed that even after I started dating other guys, I found it hard to fall again. I was too scared of getting hurt that I kept every guy I dated at arm’s length. I became a serial dater who was too much of a coward to commit. At the first signs of complication, I’d break it off and ran away. In the midst of it all however, there was one guy who patiently guided me out of my shell and taught me to love and trust again. But love has a twisted sense of humor. Just as I was falling in love, life circumstances forced us to let go of the relationship turning me back into the slightly jaded woman I once were.

Then I met Fiance. I don’t know how or why but for the first time in my life, I felt that I could just throw caution in the wind and let loose. As cheesy as it sounds, I felt that I could fall and he’d catch me. The first time I met him, I knew it was going to be different. Don’t ask me why, I just knew and felt it. So I threw caution in the wind, let loose and fell in love. I never had any regrets. It was everything I hoped for. It made me realize that what I felt before him were puppy love(s). Our relationship had been mostly happiness. I won’t call it perfect, but it’s darn well near one. Although there are times when my ‘trust issues’ would resurface, he reassures me so well it becomes impossible not to have faith in our love. We do have petty arguments from time to time, but they never lasted more that 15 minutes. He’s one of the most wonderful guys I’ve ever known. I’ve never felt so loved and cared for. I don’t have a formula for creating a successful relationship, but I know that there would be that one person who makes you feel like you two fit each other like two peas in a pod, and things between you just feel right. That’s how I feel with Fiance.

A month from now, we’ll be taking the plunge into matrimonial bliss. I look forward to it without an ounce of fear (okay, maybe a little!), only with hope…

...hope that several years from now, we would be that old loving couple still walking hand in hand...

13 comments:

C said...

i hope you are too! awwwww whatta nice story. i wish you love and happiness always. i think if wedont let ourselves take a chance, even if we get hurt, then we cant recognise good love when it comes around. happy V day to the 2 of you and i hope you will do something special.

C

Bella@That damn expat said...

You will, just remember to pack a lot of patience.

Be each other's best friends. Sometimes we cut our friends more slack than we do our significant others.

*Crystal* said...

Nicely said! Congrats on the upcoming wedding! It will be the fastest day of your life, but take the moments and take it all in!

Cecilia said...

Aw, this got me back in the mood for Valentines Day. All those awful decorations strewn all over the malls makes me cringe at the whole idea. This is really what it's all about.

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Anonymous said...

aw! cute!
I'm glad you finally found your "One". Best Wishes for Valentines.

-Jen

Anonymous said...

i am green eyed but i m not jealous :) i m just a teeny meeny bit jealous.
yes i wish you all the best, because the best is yet to come and it will be moments you can never forget.

have a love day every minute of your life :)

floreta said...

i have that hope for myself too. i'm a cynic but that doesn't stop me.

i realize i just need to learn how to be my own, complete person, before a love like that can flourish. :) i'm getting there..

Errant Gosling said...

I wish you all the best. And I'll say it -- I am jealous. More than a little. :)

Michelle said...

Awww.. what a sweet post, especially with Valentine's Day so near.

random moments said...

I'm sure you will be one of those old couples. I think J and I will be too. There's nothing like that feeling when you just KNOW you'll be with your someone forever.

A beautiful love post Chlo. Hope you two have a romantic V Day. :)

Marissa said...

I love this post! I too feel so hopeful when I see older couples together. I love how they just learn to be a team so well. They are each other's partners through life. I can't wait to know someone (hopefully my boyfriend!) so well, and know that we fit together like a perfect puzzle.

delizcious said...

That was really beautiful.