Sunday, July 26, 2009

Following Your Own Advice

Why is it always so easy to give other people advices yet so hard to follow your own?

I take pride in being the one my friends usually come to or call whenever they have problems. My friends think I'm a rational person with full of good advices. To them, I seem to always know the right words to say to make them feel better, or come up with solutions to their problem.

The irony is, when it comes to my troubles, I have a hard time following my own advice. I usually know the right thing to do, yet can't seem to do it. Most of the time, I'm overcome with emotions that logical reasoning just fly out of the window. I hate to admit it, but my heart rule over my head sometimes... maybe most of the times. I make decisons based on what my heart feels, not on what my head tells me. Although in some instances, it has done me good, it has been my downfall in others.

I know I'm not the only one who struggles with this. A lot of people do, most especially women. The thing is, it's usually easier to see the picture when you're not in it... when you're from the outside looking on the inside. It's easier, because emotions don't cloud your judgement.

So my blog friends, do you have problem of following your own advice?


justme said...

it's very hard to follow your own advice, and you look like an even bigger fool not being able to follow your own advice...and being a therapist. :)

i had a spell where i was truly with someone that was the epitome of evil. i saw it, and covered it up, hid it, did anything i could. if someone would have asked me if he was a "safe" person to be with, i would have said no. yet, i do not have an answer to why i was there for three years.

it's all so easy to give advice.

Bambola said...

Haha, YES! This post is so appropriate for me at the moment.

What I realised is that the heart doesn't follow common sense. When your heart is involved, rational thought goes out the window!

It explains perfectly why give great advice - because we're not involved & we can be objective about the situation. When we're involved, so is our heart - and we lose all objectivity...

*sigh* and we learn, and we grow and things get better =) xxx

Americanising Desi said...

i love myself and no, i dont have a problem followin my own advice :)
it actually works for me most of the time.
all i need to do is sit me down and talk to me

and it works :)

King of New York Hacks said...


C said...

ooooooooooooh yeah, babe.... i think we all do. and i think it's because we can't separate out the emotional aspect of it.
plus, we are too much in it to be unbiased.

yep, i too am guilty of it.



Life of a Stepmama said...

All the time, I joke that I wear my heart on my sleeve but it is true. I let my emotions get the best of me, more so than usual. Becoming a new stepmom really brought out insecurities and emotions I had never felt or knew I was capable of having.

I agree with you sometimes making decisions from the heart is a benefit but it can bite you in the butt on occasion. I am much better at giving advice then following it. I try and sometimes am fully aware of what "I should do" however I tend to do the opposite! :) Great post!

Anonymous said...

I felt almost like it was me who typed this blog---it's so accurate. I even know it's true about myself, but I don't make it change-haha.
I am the one a lot of people come to for advice. As long as I could remember, that's the way it's been. I never knew quite how it was that I was lecturing my best girls friends "Not to go out with *that* guy", or "He's only one guy"...yet, I always went out with Mr. Oh-so-wrong, and I always felt the heartache.

It is hard to follow my own advice, but I've been working on it for a few years now, and am loving the results :)

Americanising Desi said...

i hope u r well and settling well in ur life :)

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